Pa Darika,

Over Christmas, my 25 year old sister bought her first ‘serious boyfriend’ to visit me in Bangkok. To my horror he is the guy that I see whenever I am on business in Pattaya and sleep with every time! I am gay and know that he is too. What should I do: tell her about him/us or say nothing?

They are due to stay the in my house very soon…please help!

Oh my goodness. Whenever Darika thinks she has heard and seen everything she receives a letter like this. As I ponder your letter for the umpteenth time quite a few questions float to the surface. To begin with, what was your friend’s reaction when introduced to his gig by the gig’s sibling?  (Darika would have loved being there just for that.) Where did your sister meet him? Was he wearing a number at the time? And why is she just having her first “serious” relationship at 25? Obviously your shared playmate is a gigolo and he will disappear from the scene in short order anyway. In the end your sister’s dignity and your own should be your primary concern. If you do not talk honestly and openly with her she may be emotionally scarred for life. I suggest you present her with a giant pair of scissors and ask how she would like to divide the young man into equal portions. (Please take the scissors away afterwards.) And make it clear that during their weekend visit you expect conjugal rights. Your young gentleman probably will not show up anyway. He has not accomplished so much in life by being stupid.